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Can Sex Trigger Cardiac Arrest?
Posted:Jul 22, 2018 2:25 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 4:35 am
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Can having sex cause your heart to suddenly stop beating? A new study suggests that, although this can happen, it's very rare.

In the study, researchers analyzed information from more than 4,500 people who experienced sudden cardiac arrest, a condition in which the heart abruptly stops beating due to problems with the heart's electrical activity.

Among these cases, less than 1 percent of cardiac arrests occurred during or immediately after sexual activity, the study found.

The study is the first to examine sexual activity as a potential trigger for sudden cardiac arrest among the general population, the researchers said. The findings were presented today (Nov. 12) at the American Heart Association's Scientific Sessions meeting in Anaheim, California, and are published in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology. [Top 10 Amazing Facts About Your Heart]

"While sudden cardiac arrest is a devastating condition with a high chance of death, the likelihood of this occurring during sexual activity … was extremely low," said Dr. Sumeet Chugh, medical director of the Heart Rhythm Center at the Cedars-Sinai Heart Institute in Los Angeles and senior author of the study.

"This is a reassurance that can now be provided to heart disease patients, and will be based on actual data," Chugh told Live Science.

In the rare instances in which sex was linked with cardiac arrest, almost all of the cases — 94 percent — were in men, the study found: Among men, about 1 in 100 cases of cardiac arrest were linked with sex, compared with just 1 in 1,000 cases among women.

People who experienced a sudden cardiac arrest during sex tended to be slightly younger, around 60 years old on average, than those who had a sudden cardiac arrest at other times, who were around 65 years old on average.

But those who had a sudden cardiac arrest during sex were just as likely to have a heart condition or be on heart medication as those who had a sudden cardiac arrest at other times.

The study also found that, even though sudden cardiac arrest linked with sexual activity was usually witnessed by the person's partner, bystander CPR was performed in only one-third of cases. (Bystander CPR is CPR that is performed by a witness until an ambulance shows up.) These findings highlight the need to educate the public about the importance of CPR for sudden-cardiac-arrest patients, the researchers said.

"Multiple research studies have shown that CPR performed by bystanders … can improve the chances of survival from cardiac arrest," Chugh said. "It stands to reason that if CPR is learned [and] performed by all sexual partners, there is a good possibility of improving survival."

Source: https://www.livescience.com/60903-sex-cardiac-arrest.html
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10 Habits of Highly Sexual Couples
Posted:Jul 22, 2018 2:23 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 4:35 am
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There are peaks and valleys in every long-term relationship. If you and your partner are going through a dry spell—sex has become inconsistent, or no longer valued in the relationship—it may be time to get things back on track. How do other couples keep things hot in the bedroom? Here, we spoke with leading sex therapists to find out what they say are the top 10 habits of highly sexual couples.

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THEY EMBRACE IMPERFECTION.

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Life isn't perfect, and neither is sex. "Couples who have a lot of sex don't look for the perfect situation, like being on vacation when your are not with you. In daily life, work stress, family stress, and home stress of all kinds come into play," says Holly Richmond, Ph.D., a licensed sex therapist and marriage and family counselor. "Couples who have a lot of sex take advantage of less than perfect moments."

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THEY AREN'T ALWAYS SEXUALLY SELFISH.

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While it's easy to get lost in the desire to feel pleasure, sex is more likely to happen when both parties aren't so selfish. "Highly sexual couples aren't self-centered. It's not all about one person or the other," says Kristie Overstreet, Ph.D., clinical sexologist, psychotherapist, and founder of TherapyDepartment.com. "These couples listen to what each other needs especially when it comes to sex. They are in-tune with each other's sexual arousal and they deliver."
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THEY'RE COMFORTABLE IN THEIR SKIN.

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Having more sex can come down to loving yourself, all of yourself, before making love to someone else. "Those who feel comfortable with their bodies don't get hung up on how their bodies look, feel, or smell to one another," says Overstreet. "They feel at ease with one another which allows them to take advantage of every opportunity to be sexual."

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THEY TRUST EACH OTHER.

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One key trait that highly sexual couples have in common also contributes to successful marriage: trust. "You can't be a highly sexual couple and have trust issues," Overstreet explains. "Trust and intimacy are in tandem and you can't have one without the other. These couples have worked through any trust issues, so this is one less barrier to their intimacy."

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THEY DON'T RELY ON BEING IN THE MOOD.

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Couples who get busy frequently don't rely on being "in the mood," because that might be something they rarely feel, especially when or a busy work schedule are in the picture. "If you're not in the mood, sometimes a little foreplay can get you there,"says Richmond. "This is especially true for women, for whom arousal often precedes desire."

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THEY'RE EAGER TO HAVE FUN.

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Couples who've been together for a long time may feel the sexual spark beginning to fade, especially if their bedroom time turns into a predictable routine. "Sexual couples have fun. Sex doesn't have to be super sensual," says Richmond. "Sex can be fun and flirty. There can be laughter. Sometimes the natural way to have sex is funny and fun – give into that."

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THEY ADMIT WHAT TURNS THEM ON.

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No matter how many times you've had sex with your partner, it can sometimes be hard to voice what it is that turns you on, or even what you'd like more of. "One thing highly sexual couples do is during sex and physical intimacy, they are verbal and open. Well before sex, tell your partner something personal, something intimate about how you are feeling," recommends John Robinson, NMD, who specializes in sexual health and hormones. "It could be about anything. Just show that you are open. This starts the sexual communication immediately."

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THEY HAVE SEX TO REKINDLE CONNECTION.

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Since relationships can fall stale, having frequent sex can bring back the sense of commitment and even the strong bond the two of you have built over time. "Highly sexual couples see sex as a way to simply connect, even if it is for a short while," says Robinson. "See what happens if you simply commit to having sex every day for a week, no matter what. No excuses, just do it, and see how that starts to improve your level of intimacy, your self-esteem, and your personal bond."

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THEY'RE NOT OPPOSED TO QUICKIES.


Finding time for sex may start to make the act of getting down and dirty with your partner something that feels like a chore. "Highly sexual couples take advantage of the 'quickie,'" says Richmond. "Sex doesn't have to be 20 or 30 minutes. A quickie can be very hot and passionate and can feel great."

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10 THEY HAVE MORE IN COMMON THAN SEX.

Having a mutual love for getting it on isn't all that sexual couples have in common. "Sharing hobbies and interests—hiking, adventure, travel, and the like—helps to maintain long-term sexual passion," says Robert Weiss, LCSW, and author of several sex-focused books including Always Turned On. "Highly sexual couples also tend to share core values and belief systems. In a general way they tend to be on the same page with things like religion, politics, finances, education, and the like."

Source : https://TherapyDepartment.com.relationships/sex-tips/g3044/habits-of-highly-sexual-couples/
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YOU HAVE A SOULMATE, BUT IT’S NOT WHO YOU THINK IT IS
Posted:Oct 22, 2017 3:57 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 4:35 am
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I have been wildly outspoken about calling bullshit on the concept of a soulmate. I thought it was an obvious fabrication by the RomCom movie industry, to succinctly wrap up a storyline in 120 minutes.

I have been trying to break down the idea of “The One” since I started writing about relationships. Which is ironic and a bit hypocritical, because in the back of my mind, every time I use the word I have a specific man who’s face, body and relationship sit in my mind until I move onto to another ranting topic.

So after a recent AHA moment, and quite a bit of soul searching (read: crying and singing in the shower) I have to admit – I was wrong.

Soulmates do exist. And you should spend your entire life looking for yours.
They will become the most important person in your life.
Buuuuttttt… they aren’t who you think they are. And when you do find them. DO NOT marry them.
My AHA moment came about the way it usually does; sitting in my oversized sweatpants and an expensive bra (my bloggers uniform) halfway down a Youtube blackhole. I’d been thinking a lot about my recent relationship and came across a clip from Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat Pray Love on Super Soul Sunday.

She makes a bold statement when she says in her book “A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.”

Oh. ok. I’ll just do that then…

I was able to make peace with my own struggle against “The One” when I realized that having a soulmate and a partner were both possibilities and even inevitable. But they didn’t have to be the same person. Even better, they probably shouldn’t be.

It’s the contradictions in the idea of a soulmate that had always made the idea so impossible to me. A soulmate is supposed to show you the truest, most dangerous parts of you and reveal all your flaws – and then turn around and also understand and accept your flaws as no big thing. That is crazypants.

As this idea of separate but equally important relationships has settled in over the past few weeks – it has been a continuous sigh of relief. It has made my relationship with my soulmate and my partner clear and easy (well, easier…) Here are a few of the things I’ve learned so far:

A soulmate shows you the best and worst of yourself

Your soulmate is a mirror to the truest parts of yourself. They can see the deepest inner workings of your life. That sounds super sexy, but it means they make you feel embarrassed, shame and regret. This is absolutely necessary to begin to heal the things that make you feel ashamed and embarrassed, but the process of working through these issues (like obsessions, addictions and fears) is messy and we make tons of mistakes. We need a soulmate to go through this process with us. But we can’t undo, unsee or unsay the things that we do during this time of massive personal growth. Resentment is a natural part of the soulmate relationship, and something that will destroy a strong partnership.

Intense pain isn’t a sign of a good partnership

We often confuse intense pain and heartbreak for love, and deep chronic hurt for passion. If we’re not careful we start to think that those feelings of pain are a prerequisite for love. They’re not. So many people, especially women who have felt that deep connection to someone confuse explosive emotion for love and end up in bad or abusive relationships for too long. Intense passion from a soulmate is meant to crack you open, but you need to give yourself space to heal and grow.

Your soulmate needs to leave

The kind of explosive love, intensity and passion you feel for a soulmate isn’t sustainable. Period. Once you and your soulmate learn from each other the lessons you both needed to learn, the energy can be so frenetic that there is no way you could be close without driving each other nutso or building up layers of resentment. Let them go with ease.

A great partner will thank your soulmate

Your partner doesn’t need to be your soulmate. They just need to trust you that you have had the experiences in your life to appreciate the deep love, connection and friendship that they can give you. They don’t judge you for your past and they aren’t jealous of your soulmate. They know you had to go through that relationship to become the strong, sensual and emotionally intelligent partner that they need.

Partners can chill the fuck out

The beauty of a true partnership is you find each other when you’re ready to really love. You’ve been cracked open and healed more than a few times and you’ve cracked open other people. Now you can settle into an amazing relationship knowing exactly what you need and how to ask for it, without all the bullshit and drama. You can share a pot of tea and read the paper together, you can have an amazing sex life, you can raise a family (if that’s a thing you want) and you can support each other – no questions asked. It feels great to find someone who you can chill the fuck out with.

This whole separate soulmate/partner thing is amazing. I have become an incredible friend to my soulmate. I listen with more compassion and am more open to going deep with him in our conversations. We’re driven by shared curiosity rather than forced intimacy. Our friendship is amazing when we remove the pretext of a necessary relationship every time we get close. And I am also more open to my new partnership. I don’t hold him to unrealistic expectations of angry/passionate arguments that used to define my misunderstanding of “chemistry” . It’s kind of awesome.
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THE INTIMATE ONE NIGHT STAND
Posted:Oct 22, 2017 3:53 am
Last Updated:Mar 28, 2024 4:35 am
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One night stands have a pretty terrible reputation. You imagine the stumbling awkwardness of two strangers coming together after a long night of appletini’s and shared misery. The sex is “meh” at best and leaves both parties feeling disappointed at best, and downright shitty at worst.

But I don’t think it has to be this way. I have over the past few months started to open myself up to the possibility that good sex, or a good connection can happen between two people who don’t necessarily intend on spending the rest of their lives together. As we get older, we tend to reserve our best moves and most intimate feelings exclusively for people who we are in a relationship with. This sounds great in theory, but in practice it means we can go for months without connecting sexually to someone. That sucks! It also makes finding a partner more and more of a lifelong mission and we slip into the “destiny mentality” that there is our One love out there, our Soulmate… which as you know, is bullshit.

Instead of rushing from relationship to mediocre relationship in order to connect sexually and intimately with someone, it feels absolutely mindblowing to create that connection with someone who you have no intentions of moving in with or having babies with. A person who treats you with respect and love and kindness can do so for the rest of your life, or for the rest of the afternoon. Either way, it’s important to invite these people into your life and make the most of the time you have together.

Sounds idyllic, right?

But how exactly do you connect with someone and also let them go at the end of the day? That feels counterintuitive (but it really isn’t).

The practice of inviting love, intimacy and a super-hot lover into your life, and then loving that person completely as you let them go on their way. This creates a constant flow of love in your life. And it feels freaking amazing. You breathe love, you move in love, and people can feel that shit!

This means when you meet someone who you DO want to spend the rest of your week, year, or life with, you are already in a place where it is easy for you to love. You don’t have to remember how it feels, or get out of your selfish lifestyle in order to drag yourself back to a place where you can show love. Instead, you’re living in the love already! It’s so easy to invite someone into that amazing space. But intimacy isn’t something you think about or talk about – it’s something you do. And instead of spending a year going through a self-inflicted dry spell, consider practicing intimacy, one One Night Stand at a time.

Ok, now for the logistics:

Because this all sounds pretty fluffy and amazing, but reality is a little harder to wrap your brain around. Here are a few of the things I do to make sure the intimate One Night Stand works for me, my partner and my life.

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Nuff said.
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