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Dirty talk?  Click bait and not what you think!  I know that wasn't fair, but it does lead into the topic of dirty talk, sexting, sex chat, ... all of which I pretty much suck at (and not in a good way). Lol Picture sharing I can do, but to be fair I bore quickly of it now and much prefer skin on skin. I can play along when a casual partner/lover would want some JOI or sexting, but I'm definitely more of a hands on type of person.  I mean I get that a good wank is fun and that sex can be too strenuous or require effort, but if all you want is custom porn then I need new partners. Lol. Occasional sexting is fine especially because distance and work schedules can be an issue for real life interactions, but if theres no plan in the near future for skin contact then maybe you need a new partner that turns you on in real life.  Its that fine line in between flirting/sexting with an established partner and him just using you for jerk off material. Its one of the main reasons why I steer away from any online flirting or sex chatting, talking about sex (another fine line), and save it for after we meet ...and then it depends on how often you want skin contact. I also know that online play can be utilized as shallow validation by many or an escape from reality or "not cheating" for the married/attached people. I am no stranger to seeking validation that I am "desirable" even if it was from internet strangers, but when there is none in real life then its nice to know that someone somewhere notices even if he only sees you as a sex object.  Lets see I know many covet having a list of chicks to give them custom sexting, but do you also want to meet in real life? Little miss flower  Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal. |
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Are you good at online flirting that is genuine and not the samae cut n paste you dish out to every person? Are you a flirt in real life? (Naturally friendly n flirty) Would you still meet with a woman that flirts/sexts with you before you meet in real life? Little miss flower Written from a small city middle of no where kink thinkin kinda gal.
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1 post 2/12/2019 10:51 am |
lets talk dirty
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I love a good flirt/sexting session and it's never cut and paste... I think it leads to a great build up before meeting and allows you to get over some of the inhibition and knowing what your future partner likes and wants. But like you mentioned above.. I am one of those married blokes that's seeking escapes from reality... but not always as I like to turn some into reality.
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Is it wrong that I’m a bit turned on? 
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Really? You stay away from online sexting and flirting? Hmmm... 🤔 For sure.. both real meet ups and the texting type are good, and I'm fine with both here. There's enough diversity that one can have a great time... 😊😘👍 Words are like meatloaf- they can be sculpted into any shape you choose. I have an issue... Please Stop Sending Me Vagina Pics
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unfortunately Im on the other side of the pond. If I wasn't, I'd be interested in chat and fertilising the little miss flower. Good luck there
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I enjoy the flirting and sexting but like you I can grow tired of it. I do prefer to ultimately meet in person.
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I used to be pretty good at it and enjoyed online play, yet it lost it's luster and I don't do it anymore. I think if I had the choice, I'd rather be better at hands on than online play. So, don't feel bad. Life is like a camera. Focus on what's important. Capture the good times. Develop from the negatives and if things don't work out, Take another shot!
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Ummmm.... well... I have improved from "completly clueless" to "you are not very good at this". So that is something I guess. LOL. To be honest, I do much better flirting in person, where you can see an immediate reaction. And I am ok when chatting with someone I know well. But with people I have never met? There must be people out there worse than me... but not many.
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Been talking and sexting to a new friend over here, she is over 200 miles from me, but hoping to arrange a meet soon
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*FunnyClickbait* "Are you good at online flirting that is genuine and not the samae cut n paste you dish out to every person?" Yes! "Are you a flirt in real life? (Naturally friendly n flirty)" Yes! "Would you still meet with a woman that flirts/sexts with you before you meet in real life?" Yes! Jack
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I eschew intentional sexy chat and sexting as well .. and I agree with you that it seems to be a tactic some people use to satisfy themselves when they can't, won't or don't intend to meet in person. If they are turned on by me, legitimately, they will ask for a meet. I don't consider sexting ad nauseum any kind of a satisfactory arrangement. Just my opinion. The person who dumps garbage into your mind will do you considerably more harm than the person who dumps garbage on your floor, because each load of mind garbage negatively impacts your possibilities and lowers your expectations ~~~ Zig Ziglar
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I can validate your desirability. I hate doing laundry. In the old days it was split colored from whites, but now, it fabric types, jeans, towels, coloureds, I almost feel like each item has to be washed separately.
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I’ve found that sexting gets old pretty quickly, unless .... I’ve been with the man and the dirty talk makes my body respond, in memory and anticipation of his touch, and other things I don’t even IM anymore and turn down emails asking to chat. I just can’t get into it. My erotic stories are mainly fiction with certain activities inspired by real life. 😁
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Can I ever relate to that Miss Flower. Our little city has some very strange dynamics. Then of course being at the junction of 4 highways there’s the inevitable, wanna hookup as they pass through town. If you’re into it, you and I should get together for a drink out some night. My erotic stories are mainly fiction with certain activities inspired by real life. 😁
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I'm as clueless with online flirting/sexting as I am in real life. But in reality I don't WANT to do the sexting thing anyway. Maybe with someone I've met. I don't think I could do that with a stranger. I certainly don't flirt well in real life. So I generally don't. Oh, I've tried being a bit flirty with some single female friends, but they either didn't notice or tried to make it look like they didn't notice. Would I meet with a woman that flirted online? I'd be willing, but I've never been flirted with by anyone genuine, so I don't know the dynamic.
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I have been studying the patterns of sexual conversation and erotic writing. Interestingly, the place where some people (both men and women) seem to flinch is nouns. Adjectives like wet, hard, juicy, firm, etc. seem to be relatively easy for everyone, but people become uncomfortable saying the nouns that describe sex. The human brain is wired so that nouns are the strongest part of speech, followed closely by verbs. This is perfectly normal. In fact, I would say that people who excel at sex chat are actually quite rare. I believe it's not just you, lovely Flower. You are perfectly normal. Most men and women are uncomfortable using those nouns. My featured post this week: When I Was a Badass.
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