Cravings, Addictions, Obsessions
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Publié :4/6/2016 23h30
Dernière mise à jour :8/6/2016 4h50 23534 vues
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Craving....addiction....obsession
The first leads to the second which leads to the third? If we don't control our cravings, it leads to our addictions; if we don't control our addictions, it leads to our obsessions....and what comes after obsession? And...for some reason...addiction sounds much worse than obsession, but that's just me lol
In my opinion, craving can be dealt with. Satisfy the craving with a little taste and be satisfied with just that. Easy to do if you have limited resources, such as money. More difficult to control if you have the resources and must use your own will power to control the craving...and you want to control the craving because you know if you give in to it too often, it will lead to addiction...or just fat if your addiction is sweets lol Or financial difficulties if your craving is the newest Mercedes Benz or yet another big boy tool for your garage.
What about a craving for sex....natural of course, or the human race would cease to exist. If it started to be all that you thought about, it would be more of an obsession...can that be controlled and do you feel the need to control it? I have not been there, so I don't know. In my imagination, I can see that satisfying a need for sex that is, by definition, an addiction or an obsession (and the definition of that is different for everyone) could lead to problems. So perhaps a craving for sex is the same as a craving for...say...chocolate or cars or....anything. Have a little, enjoy, be happy. However, if one person has a huge craving for sex and finds many partners with the same craving, no strings attached....maybe not such a bad thing lol Maybe a good thing, actually....I am not a phsychologist. Satisfying a sexual need, a craving can be a very good thing. Satisfying a sexual addiction or obsession....is a bit more complicated.
Moderation is the key, as they say. Easier said than done. It helps to know if you have an 'addictive personality'. Most of us know that about ourselves...or suspect. If we know we have that addictive personality and we are smart and strong, we just don't go down the path of giving in to the craving even just a little bit, if it's a harmful craving. Chocolate...yeah, go ahead, addictive personality, have a little bit.
I do like the one definition of addiction I found: devotion to, dedication to, obsession with, infatuation with, passion for, love of...to me, the addiction of one human being for another, in the realm of this part of the definition...is sweet. Well, perhaps not the 'obsession with' part. lol That colors the relationship with a bit of tenseness, in my opinion. But to be totally devoted to, infatuated with...passionate for....such sweet surrender.
I have never felt that kind of addiction, unfortunately. I came close once. I am jealous of people who have felt such an addiction, if it continues or at least ended gently. I am glad for them, but still jealous lol
We all know the difficulties of addiction with drugs and alcohol. If not personally experienced, then through friends or relatives with addictions. It is a very rough road to travel, in any case. We walk that fine line....we are intelligent enough to know that one mis-step and we fall into an abyss that is difficult, if not impossible, to claw our way out of...yet our cravings grab at our gut and intelligence can go flying out the door as a needy voice tells us we deserve what we crave. We must find other ways to satisfy our needs.
On a lighter note lol I have had a craving all my life. I knew what it was when I was a teenager; thought I had it when I was in my 20's; knew I didn't have it in my 30's; put it aside until I was in my 50's...c'est la vie. Life is a journey. I still have hope that I will find that healthy addiction...and be someone else's healthy addiction. In the meantime, I give in to my small other cravings once in awhile, walk that fine line and enjoy life as much as possible.
And that's my take on cravings, addictions and obsessions.
Have a good day.
Signing out.
Hopefully, here is a link to all the contributors to this Symposium's subject:
Participants List For the Twentieth Virtual Symposium CravingsAddictionsObsessions
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Curiously erotic...
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Publié :1/5/2016 12h02
Dernière mise à jour :6/6/2016 4h32 17563 vues
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As I sculpt my second male figure out of clay, I find it curiously erotic to be smoothing out the clay, adding small bits of clay and smoothing it out over the rounded ass, forming the muscles in the back and shoulders, making sure that dip just above the ass cheeks, at the base of the spine, is just right..as is the indent on each side of the ass cheek...as you can tell, I do get a thrill out of a guy's ass lol
I savor the anticipation of sculpting the front of my guy 
I surely would have been thrilled to be one of the restorers of Michelangelo's David statue
A side note: as a beginning sculptor, I have concentrated on the 'perfect' figure, be it male or female. I am learning the muscles, etc. I do ponder as I sculpt what 'sexy' means to ppl...usually it is the perfect figure...tight ass, uplifted breasts, tight tummy... I remember watching that show about aspiring clothes designers being asked to design a dress for the average sized woman...how their faces dropped and alarm and disappointment flooded their expressions...and none of them did a very good job, imo. They are so focused on that 'perfect' size zero figure.
I admit that I do enjoy looking at physically fit men and women making love, having sex, and men posing provacatively with just a hint of the jewels (such as a hand covering the 'good stuff') lol
In real life, I enjoy caressing the curves of a nice ass, chest and all that comes with it...big, small or somewhere in between. My interest in being intimate with a guy has nothing to do with his size because, by the time we have sex, it's about so much more than that. And, of course, the guy must be like-minded. People are people...whether they are physically fit, big bold and beautiful or somewhere in between. I frequently visit the BBW chat room because there is a better chance that a guy visiting that room is ok with big beautiful women...but it's not a given lol It's just a place to start.
It's kind of like how I feel when a guy asks me in a chat room what kind of man I prefer. My response is usually...smart assy 'long as he's breathing' lol Of course, I have my boundaries but when I am in a smart ass mood (and that particular question sends me into that mode instantly), that is my answer. Same with guys who ask if I like a well hung New zealand 20 something guy? Really? Yep, it is a sex site lol
Sexy is the whole package...that's the bottom line. And I do like bottoms
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smart assy mood lol
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Publié :26/4/2016 13h20
Dernière mise à jour :30/4/2016 9h07 17038 vues
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Damn, part of me likes it when I am in a smart assy mood and part of me doesn't. lol
I have to be very careful with my words when I am in this mood because I am not so practiced at being a smart ass without it coming across as being a prude or rude.
Yesterday morning, I went into a chat room and was my normal, friendly self, said hi to ppl who said hi to me, etc. Even if I don't know them, I just feel it's polite to return the salutation.
And, as usual, one guy invited me almost instantly to chat via IM. Being in this smart assy mood, I shrugged and replied, asked did he mean he wanted to engage in cyber sex via IM. Sure, some ppl just actually chat about non sexual stuff in IM...I am one of them but I don't run across many guys who do. He asked why I made that assumption. So I told him the above. He stated that was not always the case. I agreed. He asked me if I wanted to chat. I just had to chuckle. I told him I was chatting, in the room, with everyone. I asked him, based on his comments, what was the difference between chatting in the room and chatting in IM? He replied, said there was a 'big' difference, wink wink. Again, I laughed but it was kind of a sad laugh, to be honest. I asked so why the attitude about me stating most ppl go to IM for cyber sex chat? He never responded. He left shortly afterwards because no one else was really chatting with him...but it was quiet in the room in general.
I am in the process of trying to figure out what a guy means by 'new experiences' with a woman...he's newly divorced...he hasn't answered my return message.
My daughter in law came home from school yesterday afternoon, pissed that my son did not have all the food prepared and ready to go for his work party. He and I had been sweating in the kitchen for an hour, trying to get it all done. Yes, my son got a little involved at researching sunglasses at the optical store and we lost track of time needed to do all this preparation. But did she offer to help? Nope. She sat on the couch, fooling around with her phone, while chastising my son for not having things done. He apologized many times but it didn't do any good. She took the cake down to the car...I made two trips with food and then a third trip to open and close doors for my son, who was carrying a warm crockpot full of jambalaya. Just venting here...must accept her as she is...it's definitely not my place to say anything. My son did have a few quiet words with her and that's when I left the room lol
Just feeling a bit...weird. One of those days when you feel like you are going to be alone for the rest of your life and you might as well accept it. Sure, there may be guys who want to chat...and one or two who want to meet...and I am grateful for those few. Just seems like what I am looking for....are there no men out there who want the same thing? An exclusive fwb or whatever it's called these days lol I know, I know, don't say it....this is a sex site so what do I expect lol I guess I expect that there are not a lot of options available for many of us and we gravitate toward this site because yes, we enjoy sex...it just may not be our number one goal in life....we are all different.
I cammed the other day on this site...head and shoulders, clothed (tho I had my shirt open for a little risqueness)...tried to do a private cam thing with a guy I was friends with but he couldn't see or hear me on cam when I was on private cam, so I went to public cam and he could hear and see me. We chatted back and forth for about half an hour before I realized that anyone who clicked on my cam icon could hear both sides of the conversation lol I think Lala said it in a response to a post of mine...how it was kind of fun, just having a bit of a casual, flirty but intellectual convo with ppl...there was at least one guy, besides the guy I was actually camming with, who was obviously listening to what was being said as he commented and replied a few times. I think it would be fun for a few of us bloggers to cam at the same time and have a fun time chatting.
Have a great Tuesday folks...it is Tuesday right? I lose track of what day it is, not working and all lol
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spring photos of mine...
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Publié :22/4/2016 20h50
Dernière mise à jour :26/7/2017 6h18 17247 vues
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while I listen to Prince on a quiet Friday night, thought I'd share some more of my photos.
This is a couple of dollhouse kits I was bashing together...used paper clay to create all the bricks, the stones...lot of fun!
My final for the cake decorating test in my baking class
and the plating of a desert for the test in that same class
tower of fire at one of my family's summer group gatherings
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Discovery
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Publié :21/4/2016 14h46
Dernière mise à jour :22/4/2016 18h40 16921 vues
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I am not going to go into detail here...I'm a bit shy that way...for the most part lol
Suffice it to say...I found a carefully packed up toy today, found some good batteries
and...
discovered something about myself I thought I'd lost a long time ago
Made my day 
Make it a good day folks
Hugs
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Need some creative writing ideas....
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Publié :21/4/2016 12h23
Dernière mise à jour :22/4/2016 7h41 15616 vues
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I will ask for assistance with the sexy parts later on
But for now, as I formulate this story in my head and get ready to start writing it down, I would like some feedback from y'all...
The man in my story lusts after a woman who is unhappily married. She is a rich, high-class person and he is working class. They have had a 'dating' relationship for awhile (time to be determined later) and of course it is a very discreet relationship because of her high class standing and that of her husband. She indicates she will not enter into a sexual relationship with him because he is single and she fears he will want to interfere with her marriage if they have sex. She wishes he was married so she would not have to worry about him wanting to 'take her away'.
Questions:
1) Would the guy wonder if she is telling the truth about why no sex? Or would it be ok for him to accept her reasoning? I know part of the answer here lies in who the guy is...he's trusting, a good, nice guy...I just wonder if it is out of the realm of reasonableness for him to accept her statement. I can say that the woman is telling the truth, along with a bit of her being a tease.
2) The guy, in this little world I made up, is a respected citizen in a small bustling community. He contributes to the community in many ways. What kind of a profession does he have? I thought of perhaps a school principal. Has to be a profession where the average reader would accept the fact that he lusts after a married woman...yes, she is unhappy but, she is married and,for now, that matters. To the average reader. In my opinion So what professions come to your mind for our guy?
Thanks!
Have a great day in your world
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Rum is definitely my poison!
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Publié :30/3/2016 22h39
Dernière mise à jour :6/8/2016 18h54 16757 vues
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I am not a heavy drinker...but I have had some experiences in the past lol
Rum is the only hard alcohol I ever got the serious spins from...omg it was awful. I will spare you all the details. If you've been there, you know what I mean. If you haven't, you don't need to hear the details. Trust me on that one lol
So tonight, I shared a drink with my adult son. It was a weird mix of iced tea and rum. I could taste each equally and it was about 12 oz. It was not a bad drink at all.
But wow...one drink and I feel soooo loopy lol Very relaxed. Course I was smoking a little pot at the same time but it was the rum, I am sure of it.
Now I know why I stay away from the stuff! It's not a bad feeling but it's hard to stop at just one drink when you are feeling this good, right? Hence why I don't have it around!
Have a good night everyone.
Cheers.
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Rum is definitely my poison!
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Publié :30/3/2016 20h41
Dernière mise à jour :17/4/2024 21h5 16275 vues
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I am not a heavy drinker...but I have had some experiences in the past lol
Rum is the only hard alcohol I ever got the serious spins from...omg it was awful. I will spare you all the details. If you've been there, you know what I mean. If you haven't, you don't need to hear the details. Trust me on that one lol
So tonight, I shared a drink with my adult son. It was a weird mix of iced tea and rum. I could taste each equally and it was about 12 oz. It was not a bad drink at all.
But wow...one drink and I feel soooo loopy lol Very relaxed. Course I was smoking a little pot at the same time but it was the rum, I am sure of it.
Now I know why I stay away from the stuff! It's not a bad feeling but it's hard to stop at just one drink when you are feeling this good, right? Hence why I don't have it around!
Have a good night everyone.
Cheers.
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My not so shy side...
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Publié :25/3/2016 20h31
Dernière mise à jour :23/6/2018 2h51 17025 vues
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A few of my favorite pics...these are not of me, of course nor are they of anyone I know...just found them on the net, enjoy them and thought I would let other ppl enjoy them too...
oh, the last one is one I took Mount Vernon tulip festival
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What are some guys afraid of?
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Publié :25/3/2016 13h45
Dernière mise à jour :21/6/2016 12h33 16257 vues
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I don't go for generalizations at all, lol, so please note that I said 'some guys'...we are all different so please don't take offense if you are not one of the guys I speak of here...hugs
A recent blog from a fellow blogger...and several of the responses...fit into something I have been thinking about lately....
Sex as a priority in a relationship for ppl on this site...
I totally understand the need, the hunger, the joy of sex...I wish I had more of it and really do miss the physical act, the intimacy...the whole thing.
I am looking for friendship before the sex....is sex guaranteed? To be honest, no, it's not. Holding up my hand to those ppl who will instantly say I should not be on this site then. Heard it, understand it, it's your opinion, moving on lol
I am not looking to get married. I am more than willing to start engaging in fun, hot, flirty sex with a friend when we turn each other on.
It seems, recently with chats with some guys, local and not so local, that if sex is not a guaranteed thing and more from the get-go rather than down the line after a few dates thing...they are not interested. And that's ok. To each their own. Everyone is different. I don't like it when some ppl put me down because I am not willing to put out sex, no matter what, from the get-go but that's their issue, not mine. I do think there is room on this site for all sorts of wants and such.
I suppose guys who are more interested in guaranteed sex, from the get-go, just are not interested in putting in the time and effort to establish a friendship with a woman. No criticism there intended, just a statement of opinion. I understand there can be a connection from the get-go and if that leads to sex right away, fantastic. Been there, done that.
Some ppl won't even do the first meet though if guaranteed sex is not part of the equation.
And I wish there were more guys willing to have a few good, fun dates to find out if sex is the path to take.
As one of the responders said to that fellow bloggers post...sex is in the top 5 priorities in my life and when meeting someone...based on who they are and how we are together at a meet, that priority could be #1 or it could be #5...or not even on the list.
Thanks for listening.
Have a great Friday everyone!
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pics of my sexy sculpture, in progress
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Publié :7/3/2016 16h56
Dernière mise à jour :6/4/2016 19h14 18020 vues
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I started this sculpture a few years ago...it got broken in my recent move...as you can see in these pics...lower legs and feet...I also have found that his arm under her head is way too long...like three feet long in real life lol lots of improvements to work on with this one...lots of fun
I am wondering, though, if his cock is at a weird angle of penetration? I was using a fav porn video as inspiration but not sure if I got that quite right or what.
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Hmmmm something fishy going on here....
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Publié :16/2/2016 13h11
Dernière mise à jour :26/2/2016 16h22 16673 vues
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Since I updated my profile to warn away all the users and abusers from contacting me, I've gotten very little mail. Which is ok. I'd rather get no mail than to get hooked into some user's world of fantasy.
But today, I have gotten four...yes 4....emails from 4 different ppl...and three of them were young couples....all gold....all asking me if I wanted to do something that clearly showed they had not read my profile.
Nothing pornographic...nothing crude....just...meet for a drink and see what happens....and they live in Conneticut. Or their profile indicates they are looking for a play partner for the wife...and I am straight....and they live in California. He is 38 and wants to have sexy online chat, loves older bbw's and thinks I am very hot. Well ty for the compliment but...I reserve sexy chat for ppl closer to my age and only after I know them very, very well, if then even. And that's in my profile.
So it seems as if the newest members of Sex Friends Finder.net are all for putting up the bucks to pay for gold...but only so they can send out mass e:mails to every female on the site. They obviously didn't pay for gold to actually read profiles.
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Disapointed and a little pissed lol
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Publié :12/2/2016 19h24
Dernière mise à jour :2/3/2016 7h34 16405 vues
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I am told quite often that this is not the site for me...I won't go into the boring details of why ppl say that to me...and you can probably guess anyway lol
So I joined one of the popular 'dating' sites because they advertised on tv 'free communication' with your matches. I have no income so I can't afford to buy a membership so that sounded like a good deal to me. I set up a profile, answered all their questions, posted some of the same pics I have on here...
Of course, once I joined, I found out you don't get anything for free. Their definition of free means their 'guided' communication. You choose 5 questions to send to your matches....and wait for them to respond. Mind you, I can't see their profiles or pictures...all I can see is they 'name', their age, their religious affiliation and what their general employment is. If they respond, you read their responses and then you are given the opportunity to choose 5 more questions to send them....they respond and then once more, you are given the opportunity to choose 5 more questions to send them.
What the fuck happens once you've gone through all three steps of this guided communication, I have no idea.
Ok, I would play their game. I sent out 5 questions to every guy on my match list. Not one response. When I checked back a week later, half of the members I had written to, no longer had profiles on the site.
Frustrating but something I am, unfortunately, used to.
So this weekend, being Valentines Day, this dating site is advertising a free communication weekend. Yay!
So I went in to my profile and drafted an actual mail to one of my matches, hit the 'send' button and .....drum roll here......
nope, wouldn't go through.
You have to go through the three guided communication steps with a match and then...and only then....during this free weekend....can you go to the 'free' communication e:mail.
At the rate that ppl respond to even the first set of 'guided' communications, the weekend will be up before anything happens.
Back to square one.
Hey, nice shoes, wanna fuck? lol
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