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mc_justmc 63M

9/27/2016 7:28 pm

I used to play with couples, but I would have never put up with that. That's just an insult.


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
9/27/2016 7:43 pm

If a man asked me to meet and said he invited 2 other women and he would decide who he chose, he would get a big "fuck off" , never mind. Just rude.


KItkat1415 61F  
20051 posts
9/27/2016 7:45 pm

First of all, I am a single female.
I have played with single males when I was in a couple.
I agree with you, that what they did was disrespectful.
I will say, that you are speaking from your experience, and more than likely, they have in their previous experiences, been able to do exactly what they suggested to you with no one complaining.
Good for you for standing up for yourself.
As for their blocking you, that is probably because they felt that you were angry and didn't want to interact with you anymore. I don't see that as more disrespect, but as a dodging technique for avoiding more unpleasantness. Bear in mind, this is not an excuse for their behavior, but simply an explanation of why they acted the way that they did.

As a single female, again, I would not want to meet with a couple and have them tell me what they told you.
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BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
9/27/2016 7:58 pm

I have met here and on other sites none had ever told me “we are inviting three, but will pick one”.

I get what you're saying, but if you've ever had someone pull a no show or someone ghost on you, you've probably had it happen and just didn't know it. (Of course if you've never had either of those things happen. you' re pretty fortunate).

I have an actual, as opposed to rhetorical question, for you. What would you have thought if you got to the bathhouse and they let you know that you were one of several men they were considering for the evening. You'd be pissed and with good reason? You'd not only be pissed but also out of time and money.

I get that this feels like a shit sandwich on shit bread to you, when I was part of a couple, we never did anything like that. However, I don't necessarily think it's disrespectful as long as they let the men know what is up in advance. Then, like you, they can decide whether they want to be a part of this arrangement or not.

So while you were offended, they told you their plan up front so you had enough info to know this wasn't your thing.

Who knows, maybe that's the way people do things wherever they hail from. This has either worked for them in the past and they keep doing it *or* they are trying something new which might blow up in their face.

People get pretty tweaked about being blocked but I have no idea why you would *want* to look at their profile again to know that you were blocked? You decided how they picked their playmates was not for you and it sounds as though there was a bit of a clash. Why wouldn't they block you? If I meet someone and it doesn't go well, I (a)have no desire to see them again, and (b)he has no reason to look at my profile, read my blog posts, send me messages, etc.

I think it's more petty to peek at the profile of a person/couple one has had a negative experience with than it is to block someone you have no intention of connecting with again.

Succinctly, I find that odd but at least they told you up front so you could make an informed choice. I don't see any problem with them blocking you since you made it clear that you didn't appreciate the way they operated. I don't see the issue with them blocking you since you all have no reason to communicate with each other in the future.


redrockrascal 65M
23580 posts
9/27/2016 8:06 pm

I don't do the couples or bath house thing but respect is respect. Few people with self respect would put up with that. I'd say no and forget em.

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northshoretake2 49M  
1626 posts
9/27/2016 8:12 pm

The unusual part about that scenario is that it seems you only dealt with HIM.

Typically, don't you swap some messages or have a chat to confirm interest? When you met for drinks, did you engage her in some conversation or did he act as a buffer?

It may just be their kink: He chooses.

Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.


perkala 44F
480 posts
9/27/2016 9:36 pm

You've met before, they already know if it's a yes or no. That is SUPER rude.

That stinks. Sorry you had to deal with that.


Nola7011 67M
1021 posts
9/27/2016 11:15 pm

You had misgivings from the get-go, and should have emailed back, "Thanks, but no thanks,' IMO.

People are strange when you're a stranger."


porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
9/27/2016 11:39 pm

to me you said and did the right thing for you, some people don't care about others feelings only their own pleasure, do they think they are the last great couple on this earth, really ? treat people the way you want to be treated


traveljunkie13 56F
11089 posts
9/28/2016 2:00 pm

I'm not in the lifestyle but I have friends who've been kind enough to answer some of my questions. One sticking point for me was the way single men are treated by some couples. It's atrocious and I can't understand why anyone would put up with that kind of behavior. So yeah, I think they were hella rude and clearly they view single men as just another dick in the mix.


itzchic824 37F
2811 posts
9/28/2016 6:45 pm

I have nothing new to add to what others have said, but I do agree I think It's disrespectful and blocking you was just childish.

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